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THE WAR AGAINST FATHERHOOD

SERMON STARTER

 

          United States' entertainment and culture has been waging a seventy year war on fatherhood. In the earliest television years fathers were depicted as the object of respect and authority.

Here's a few examples. . .

        Judge Hardy in the Andy Hardy movie series was   grandfatherly, a man of absolute morality, and integrity       with a stern demeanor. (1938-46)

       Father Knows Best - Robert Young was the wise-cracking,         always right father. He was respected and a man mostly of           wisdom.  (1948-62)

       The Rifleman - Frank Conners as Lucas McCain is the ideal         dad - Courageous, wise, morally right. . . (1950's)

       Andy Griffiths - Sheriff Andy Taylor another wise, caring,           disciplining dad. . .  (1960's)

          That’s changed. More often than not, when fathers are now depicted in situation comedies, they’re portrayed as overgrown children, incompetent, with little authority, little responsibility, or else pompous, overbearing, continually corrected, or shown to be foolish by those around them.

        All In The Family

            Archie Bunker was one of a declining decade of buffoon dads. The           show began in late 1960's. . .

     The Flintstones

          Fred Flintstone was the cartoon dad that was getting into crazy messes. Wilma and Betty would get them out.

     The Simpsons

            Homer Simpson a contemporary Fred Flintstone

     Everybody Hates Chris

            More of the same

     Two and a Half Men

            More of the same

          This is just more of the current trend making fatherhood irrelevant or disposable. This disrespect has spilled over into the church world. Increasingly, there is a lack of reverence toward God as Father, His Presence and Authority, even a lack of submission to God's Word.

          David Seamonds, Asbury Seminary pastor and professor, wrote a book entitled, “Distorted God Concepts.” Rev. Seamonds wrote that we see our Heavenly Father through the lens of life provided for us by our earthly father.  If that lens is clear and clean, we see God the Father as good, benevolent and nurturing.  If, however, the lens is cloudy or distorted, we see God the Father as un-healthy, un-nurturing and malevolent.

          As we start this morning's sermon ask yourself some questions,

          HOW ARE YOU LOOKING AT GOD?

 

          ARE YOU SEEING HIM THROUGH THE                                                             ENTERTAINMENT MEDIA'S LENSE?

 

          ARE YOU SEEING HIM THROUGH THE LENSE

                    OF AN ABUSIVE OR OVER-DISCIPLINING

                    FATHER YOU GREW UP WITH?

          DO YOU SEE HIM AS A FATHERLY GOD OF MERCY                            AND LOVE?

 

          WHAT DO YOU SEE?

 

Pastor Phil  <><<

 

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June 16, 2019 - Sheepfold Ministries

Father's Day - Pastor Phil Roland   <><<

 

THE WAR AGAINST FATHERHOOD

Various Scriptures

 

"Honoring Fathers and Mothers is one of God's absolutes. It isn't just something you do once a year. Our gratitude for our fathers is to be expressed in simple things like respect, admiration, appreciation and genuine love. We resist the culture war against fatherhood." Pastor Phil

 

12 "Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God is giving you. Exodus 20:12

 

2 "Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with promise:    Ephesians 6:2

 

NURTURE, as defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, means “to supply with nourishment; to educate; or to further the development of.”

 

Today's message is an attack against culture's War Aganst Fatherhood.

Scripture reveals a God who is a tender Parent. He gently nudges us towards maturity in Christ . Let’s look at some of the ways Father God Nurtures believers.

KEN CANFIELD in his book, "Seven Secrets of Effective Fathers," says,

Effective Fathers are:

  • Committed to their children.
  • Know their children.
  • Are consistent in their attitudes and behavior.
  • Protect and Provide for their children.
  • Love their children’s mother.
  • Are active listeners to their children.
  • Spiritually equip their children.

            The Seven Secrets of Effective Fathers by Ken Canfield, Tyndale House,             quoted in Lifeline, Summer 1997

 

Children from fatherless homes are:

  • 4.6 times more likely to commit suicide,
  • 6.6 times to become teenaged mothers (if they are girls, of course),
  • 24.3 times more likely to run away,
  • 15.3 times more likely to have behavioral disorders,
  • 6.3 times more likely to be in a state-operated institutions,
  • 10.8 times more likely to commit rape,
  • 6.6 times more likely to drop out of school,
  • 15.3 times more likely to end up in prison while a teenager.

 

THE WAR AGAINST FATHERHOOD, cont. p.2

 

Seven Ways Dads Can Combat the War Against Fatherhood. . .

I.  PROVIDE FOR HIS FAMILY

Matthew 7:11 If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him! 1 Timothy 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

          A. Following God's Word, Dad's will provide for their own

          B. Society's results today: Deadbeat Dads

 

II.  INSTRUCT HIS CHILDREN - Proverbs 1:8

Proverbs 1:8 My son, hear the instruction of your father, And do not forsake the law of your mother;

          A. Children learn by example

          B. They will learn from either negative or positive examples

 

III.  EXORT, ENCOURAGE AND IMPLORE HIS CHILDREN

1 Thessalonians. 2:11 as you know how we exhorted, and comforted, and charged every one of you, as a father does his own children,

            A. Healthy Father's know the Word and know their children

          B. They know them and treat them accordingly

 

IV.  DISCIPLINE UNRULY CHILDREN - 1 Samuel 3 and 4

          The aging priest Eli was admonished by God to discipline his unruly           sons, Phineas and Hophni. God even spoke through the child, Samuel. Eli stubbornly refused. Calamity followed. . .

 

V.  RAISE CHILDREN IN THE DISCIPLINE AND NURTURE OF THE LORD

Ephesians 6:24 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

Colossians 3:21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

            A. Fathers minister to their children w/o partiality

          B. Fathers of the Word listen to their children

              

VI.  DISCIPLINE HIS CHILDREN - Heb. 12:7

12:7 If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten?

            A. Fathers of the Word withdraws favor w/unruly children

          B. Instruct their children with consequences

 

VII.  LOVE HIS WIFE - Ephesians 5:25,28,33

 

 

THE WAR AGAINST FATHERHOOD, cont. p.3

 

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, Ephesians 5:28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.

Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

          A. Ephesians 5 doesn't tell wives to love their husbands

          B. Tells the husbands to love their wives

                    Bumper Sticker: Do your kids a favor, love their mother!

 

Four Benefits Dads Receive Winning the War Against Fatherhood. . .

I.  OBEDIENT CHILDREN

Ephesians 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

 

II.  CHILDREN THAT HONOR THEIR PARENTS

Deuteronomy 5:16 'Honor your father and your mother, as the LORD your God has commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may be well with you in the land which the LORD your God is giving you.

Ephesians 6:2 "Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with promise:

 

III.  CHILDREN THAT SEEK THEIR FATHER'S WISDOM

Deut. 32:7"Remember the days of old, Consider the years of many generations. Ask your father, and he will show you; Your elders, and they will tell you:   

Prov. 4:1Hear, my children, the instruction of a father, And give attention to know understanding;   

Prov. 23:22Listen to your father who begot you, And do not despise your mother when she is old.   

 

IV.  CHILDREN THAT CARE FOR AGING PARENTS

1 Timothy 5:8But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

 

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THE WAR AGAINST FATHERHOOD

Matthew 7:7-12
7 "Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.
8 For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.
9 Or what man is there among you who, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone?
10 Or if he asks for a fish, will he give him a serpent?
11 If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!
12 Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

 

 

 

 

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CLOSING ILLUSTRATION:

 

BECOMING A DAD WITH LOIS' HELP

 

On August 12th, 1965 I became a father. I remember as I sat nervously in the Father's Waiting Room at Torrance Memorial Medical Center, Torrance, California. I was awaiting the arrival of my First wonderful daughter, Barbara Eileen. I was writing in the Fathers' Book the hospital provided, all my anxious thoughts and fears about the Fatherhood adventure ahead. I remember writing the final entry, "With God's strength and help I am ready. . ."

Here I am almost 54 years later thanking God and another person: my wife Lois, who was a key figure in my adventure into Fatherhood. I am grateful for her industry, sacrifice and love that has made me a father three times!  (Stands. . .)

 

Pastor Phil  <><<

 

 

 

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REVERENCE AND THE WAR AGAINST FATHERHOOD

There’s a trend in modern culture against fatherhood. In earlier years, when a father was depicted on television in a situation comedy, he would most often be seen as an object of respect and authority.

That’s changed. More often than not, when fathers are now depicted in situation comedies, they’re portrayed as overgrown children, incompetent, with little authority, little responsibility, or else pompous, overbearing, and foolish, continually corrected, or shown to be foolish by those around them. It’s part of an increasing trend that fatherhood is irrelevant or disposable. This manifests as an increasing lack of reverence. In the church world, it manifests in a decreasing sense of reverence toward God, His presence, and authority; a lack of submission to His Word. Has that affected you? Do you reverence God’s presence as you should? Do you truly subject your life to the Word of God? Are you truly surrendering your will to the will of God? If not, then start today. Revere the Lord. Make Him the true Lord of every part of your life. For we are truly His children if He is truly our Father.

From Message #1261 - The Great Absent Father
Scripture: Ephesians 6:2

Friday, June 14, 2019