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SERMON DATE AND TITLE: 20180916 THE PRISON OF SHAME

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THE PRISON OF SHAME
SERMON STARTER
 
          My two new friends cautioned me to squeeze my eyes tightly shut. They told me to lie down on the ground. As I was lying face-up on the ground as a warm fluid splashed on my face. The two boys hideous laughter caused me to sit up and realize they were urinating on my face. I sputtered and ran home crying to the comfort of my mother.
          Mom held my head under the tub faucet and washed the urine from my face and hair. I was confused. All I wanted was acceptance from my new "friends." All I got was a broken heart.
That was one of my earliest experiences with shame.
          As I grew older I learned to wear the shame like a mantle of heaviness. More than once I defended the honor of my mother when I was called a "Son of a Bit__h!" My father told me that was a direct insult to my mother and I was to engage anyone who called me that name with fists. My father explained "SOB" was a shameful term that caused me to defend my mother's reputation.
          As I grew older I perceived my father as the town drunk because of his alcohol binging behavior. I was sure that it was because I was a bad kid he did these terrible things with his life. Sometimes, he blamed me directly, but mostly the shame, guilt and blame was indirect. Our family many times bore the brunt of  the consequences of his shameful behavior. That's not uncommon among shame-based families.
          In the days before digital photography we worried about exposing the negative of the photograph to light. There was a danger that light would blanch out the picture, ruin it altogether. Overexposed, the details of the photo were gone, the picture was whitened out, we had to throw it away. That's how people think. If they're over- exposed they'll be thrown away.
          My sermon today throws light on the Biblical story of King David's mid-life crisis that led to the death of his friend, Uriah and the conception of a child from his adulterous affair. It's about breaking out of the prison of shame.
Pastor Phil  <><<
September 16, 2018 - Sheepfold Ministries
Pastor Phil  <><<

THE PRISON OF SHAME
2 Samuel 12:1-15

"We live in an overtly shameless generation. Scandalous behavior a generation ago is no longer shameful behavior. We no longer weep at sin in ourselves or others. We fail to point people to Jesus as a remedy to sin, guilt and shame. Either we offer relief to the dark world, or we become like it."                                                                                     Pastor Phil   <><<

DICTIONARY DEFINITION OF SHAME:
"Shame is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the awareness of wrong or foolish behavior."

BIBLICAL DEFINITION OF SHAME:
"Shame and Death are the sinful consequences of direct disobedience to God's Commands.

SHAMING WORDS:
Lazy; Worthless; Crazy; Idiot; Dummy; Pig; Slut; Disgrace; No Good

SHAMING PHRASES:
Shame on you! - I'm ashamed of you! - You disgust me! You're worthless! - You're a Disgrace! - You never do anything right! - Are you deaf?

John Bradshaw Quote:
What’s the difference between Shame and Guilt?
"Guilt," notes Bradshaw, "says I’ve done something wrong; shame says there is something wrong with me."
"Guilt says I’ve made a mistake; shame says I am a mistake.
Guilt says what I did was not good; shame says I am no good."

I. SHAME IMPRISONS THOSE BENT ON SINNING - Ezekiel 18:20
20 The soul who sins shall die. . .
          A. Shame and Death are the result of deliberate Disobedience to God
                    1. We are imprisoned in the Fear of Death
                    2. All Sin has an addictive nature
                    3. A temporary mood lift with a life-harming consequence
          B. All have Fallen Short of God's Plan for mankind - Romans 3:23
                    23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,
                    1. Ancestor Adam's disobedience brought sin to mankind
2.William NcGuffey's Reader, Through Adam's Fall We sinned All
          C. Sin's Wages  are Death - Romans 6:23
                    23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ
              Jesus our Lord.
              
THE PRISON OF SHAME, cont., p.2

II. FOUR BIBLICAL EXAMPLES OF PEOPLE HIDING SHAME
          A. Adam in the Garden
              9 Then the LORD God called to Adam and said to him, "Where are you?"
               10 So he said, "I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I
                  was naked; and I hid myself." Genesis 3:9-10
          B. David hid in his Palace after twin sins of Adultery and Murder
C.Woman at the Well - Noontime Well Visit
          D. Woman w/an Issue of Blood

III. SHAME CAUSES US TO HIDE - Genesis 3:7
7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings.


          A. People Hid from God's Face in the Bible accounts
          B. Shame causes us to hide from One Another
                    1. We hide in our homes or away from our homes
                    2. We hide in our rooms or offices
                    3. We hide in or from Housework, or Yard work
                    4. We hide behind our Electronics:
                        Computers, Games, Phones, newspapers, magazines
                    5. We hide behind Earphones, Blue Tooth, Netflix, ESPN
                    6. We hide behind Fashion, Education and Career Facades
                    7. We hide behind Facebook, Twitter, Social Media. . .
                    8. He hide in busyness and procrastination
          C. Shame causes us to hide from God today
                    1. There are so many diversions we substitute for God
                    2. Substance Abuse becomes our shameless God
                    3. Earning Wealth can become the object of our worship
                    4. Religion can be used to Hide from God

IV. SHAME ISOLATES US - Isaiah 53:3
3 He is despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him; He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.
          A. Shame cuts us off from Others: especially People we Love
                    1. Note Isaiah says "WE" hid our faces from Him
                    2. It was just the people of Jesus' time, but our time as well
                    3. OD Deaths Isolates families, shame keeps it in the closet
                    4. Most families are "Shame-Based," but some are stronger
                    5. Substance abuse families are isolated from each other
          B. Shame cuts us off from Ourselves
                    1.Loneliness
                    2. Fallen Self-Esteem
                    3. Depression
          C. Shame cuts us off from Others around us
THE PRISON OF SHAME, cont., p.3

          D. Shame cuts us off from God
                    1. Adam tried to hide from God
                    2. In the Day of Judgment we won't be able to hide

V. JESUS BECAME SHAME AND SET US FREE - Hebrews 12:2
2 looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

          A. Jesus' Death on the Cross Broke Shame's Power over us
                    1. We are set free from our own accusing heart
                    2. We are set free from the accusations of others
                    3. We are set free from Satan's Accusations
          B. He died for us to set us free from Sin and  Death - John 8:36
                    36 Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.
          C. John Wesley understood the power of Jesus over Shame
                    He breaks the power of cancelled sin
                    He sets the prisoner free
                    His blood can make the foulest clean
                    His blood availed for me

                             
 - Charles Wesley, "O for a Thousand Tongues"
            D. The question is. . .
                    Has He set you free?

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He has broken Shame and Sin's Power

 

 

THE PRISON OF SHAME, Text
2 Samuel 12:1-15
1 Then the LORD sent Nathan to David. And he came to him, and said to him: "There were two men in one city, one rich and the other poor.
2 The rich man had exceedingly many flocks and herds.
3 But the poor man had nothing, except one little ewe lamb which he had bought and nourished; and it grew up together with him and with his children. It ate of his own food and drank from his own cup and lay in his bosom; and it was like a daughter to him.
4 And a traveler came to the rich man, who refused to take from his own flock and from his own herd to prepare one for the wayfaring man who had come to him; but he took the poor man's lamb and prepared it for the man who had come to him."
5 So David's anger was greatly aroused against the man, and he said to Nathan, "As the LORD lives, the man who has done this shall surely die!
6 And he shall restore fourfold for the lamb, because he did this thing and because he had no pity."
7 Then Nathan said to David, "You are the man! Thus says the LORD God of Israel: 'I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul.
8 I gave you your master's house and your master's wives into your keeping, and gave you the house of Israel and Judah. And if that had been too little, I also would have given you much more!
9 Why have you despised the commandment of the LORD, to do evil in His sight? You have killed Uriah the Hittite with the sword; you have taken his wife to be your wife, and have killed him with the sword of the people of Ammon.

THE PRISON OF SHAME,  Text., cont.

10 Now therefore, the sword shall never depart from your house, because you have despised Me, and have taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your wife.'
11 Thus says the LORD: 'Behold, I will raise up adversity against you from your own house; and I will take your wives before your eyes and give them to your neighbor, and he shall lie with your wives in the sight of this sun.
12 For you did it secretly, but I will do this thing before all Israel, before the sun.' "
13 So David said to Nathan, "I have sinned against the LORD." And Nathan said to David, "The LORD also has put away your sin; you shall not die.
14 However, because by this deed you have given great occasion to the enemies of the LORD to blaspheme, the child also who is born to you shall surely die."
15 Then Nathan departed to his house. And the LORD struck the child that Uriah's wife bore to David, and it became ill.

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MEN AND WOMEN OF CHARACTER
The world needs men and women. . .

  • who cannot be bought;
  • whose word is their bond;
  • who put character above wealth;
  • who possess opinions and a strong will;
  • who are larger than their vocations;
  • who do not hesitate to take risks;
  • who will not lose their individuality in a crowd;
  • who will be as honest in small affairs as in greater;
  • who will make no compromise with wrong;
  • whose ambitions are not confined to their own selfish          desires;
  • who will not say they do it "because everybody else          does it;"
  • who are true to their friends through good and bad, in          adversity as well as in prosperity;
  • who do not believe that shrewdness, cunning, and          hardheadedness are the best qualities for winning          success;
  • who are not ashamed or afraid to stand for the truth          when it is unpopular;
  • who can say "no" with emphasis, although all the rest    of the world says "yes."

~~ Author Unknown ~~
Pastor Phil Roland   <><<
BIBLICAL SELF-IN-CHRIST ESTEEM
You are not always who your family says you are. You are not who work associates or friends say you are. You are who the Bible says you are. Our identity is secure in Christ and His love.

1.  IN CHRIST I AM ACCEPTED
      a.  I am God’s Child - John 1:12
      b.  I am Christ’s Friend - John 15:15
      c.  I have been Justified - Romans 5:1
      d.  I am united with God and one with Him in Spirit –
1 Cor. 6:17
      e.  I have been bought with a price-I belong to God -
1 Cor. 6:20
      f.  I am a member of Christ’s Body - 1 Cor. 12:27
      g.  I am a Saint - Eph. 1:1
      h.  I have been adopted as God’s Child - Eph. 1:5
      i.  I have direct access to God thru the Holy Spirit - Eph. 2:18
      j.  I have been redeemed of all my sins - Col. 1:14
      h. I am complete in Christ - Col. 2:10

2. IN CHRIST I AM SECURE
      a)  I am free from condemnation - Rom. 8:1,2
      b)  I am assured all things work together for good –
Rom. 8:28
      c)  I am free from any condemning charged against me. 
     I cannot be separated from the Love of God - Rom. 8:31
      d)  I have been established, anointed and sealed by God -
              2 Cor. 1:21-22
      e)  I am hidden with Christ in God - Col. 3:3
      f)  I am confident that the good work God has begun in me
will be perfected - Phil 1:6
      g)  I am a citizen of heaven - Phil. 3:20
 Courtesy of Sheepfold Ministries, Sharon, PA

 

stinkin’ thinkin’
For all the negative things we have to say to ourselves, God has a positive answer for it.

You say, "It's impossible."
God says: "All thing are possible." (Luke 18:27)

You say, "I'm too tired."
God says: "I will give you rest." (Matt 11:28-20)

You say, "Nobody really loves me."
God says: "I love you." (John 3:16 John 13:34)

You say, "I can't go on."
God says: "My grace is sufficient." (II Cor. 12:9 - Psalm 91:15)

You say, "I can't figure things out."
God says: "I will direct your steps." (Proverbs 3:5-6)

You say, "I can't do it."
God says: "You can do all things in Me." (Phil 4:13)

You say, "It's not worth it."
God says: "It will be worth it." (Romans 8:28)

You say, "I can't forgive myself."
God says: "I forgive you." (I John 1:9 - Romans 8:1)

You say, "I can't manage."
God says: "I will supply all your needs." (Phil 4:19)

You say, "I'm afraid."
God says: "I have not given you a spirit of fear." (2 Tim. :7)

You say, "I'm always worried and frustrated."
God says: "Cast all your cares on ME 1I Peter 5:7)

You say, "I don't have enough faith."
God says: "I've given everyone a measure of faith." (Romans 12:3)

You say, "I'm not smart enough."
God says: "I give you wisdom." (1 Cor. 1:30)

You say, "I feel all alone."
God says: "I will never leave you or forsake you." (Heb. 13:5)

Courtesy of Sheepfold Ministries, Sharon, PA  16146, Pastor Phil Roland
SHAME FUNNY
          A new pastor was visiting the homes of some of the people in his congregation. He came to one house and he knocked but there was no answer. He could see the lights were on and it seemed very obvious that someone was home so he knocked again. When there was no response he took out a note card and simply wrote on it Revelation 3:20 and stuck it in the door. The next Sunday after the offering was passed he found someone had put his note card in the plate. He looked at it to see that they had added to it a cryptic message saying simply: Genesis 3:10. The pastor grabbed his bible and opened it to the verse cited and began to laugh. Revelation 3:20 begins: “Behold I stand at the door and knock.” Genesis 3:10 reads: “I heard your voice in the garden and I was afraid for I was naked.”

 

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2 Corinthians 3:17
17 Now the Lord is the Spirit; and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.

BREAKING OUT OF THE PRISON OF SHAME
We are who God's Word says we are

SHAME DENIGRATES

SHAME DESTROYS   SELF ESTEEM

MIS-PLACED SHAME -
Mark 8:38 (NKJV)
38 For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words in this adulterous and sinful generation, of him the Son of Man also will be ashamed when He comes in the glory of His Father with the holy angels."

Romans 1:16 16 For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of God to salvation for everyone who believes, for the Jew first and also for the Greek.

1 Corinthians 15:34
34 Awake to righteousness, and do not sin; for some do not have the knowledge of God. I speak this to your shame.

 

WELL-PLACED SHAME
1 Corinthians 6:5
5 I say this to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you, not even one, who will be able to judge between his brethren?

John 8:31-32
31 Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, "If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed.


32 And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free."

Galatians 5:1
1 Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage.

Deeds done in Darkness Shouted from Housetops

 Isaiah 53:3-5 (NKJV)
3 He is despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him; He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.
4 Surely He has borne our griefs And carried our sorrows; Yet we esteemed Him stricken, Smitten by God, and afflicted.
5 But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed.