The Curse of Loving Self Too Much

It is possible to be so obsessed with self and the grand things that life should lay at your feet that you lose perspective on the real world around you. If you need excessive amounts of affirmation and adoration and have a problem identifying with the needs and feelings of others you may have a problem with Narcissism.
Narcissists are developmentally regressed persons who because of genetics, personal trauma, or missing maternal nurture from birth to two years of age, become emotionally caught or “fixated” at that emotional level. They are seemingly unable to mature beyond that point.
Studying ancient Greek literature, we find a young, beautiful man whose name was “Narcissus.” One day he noticed his reflection in a placid pool of water. He stayed there at the pool and lived his whole life admiring his reflection in the pool. Here are the main traits exhibited by Narcissus and others with the character disorder:

1) He/she has an expansive sense of self-importance. The Narcissist feels that anything she/he does is worthy of special recognition, acclaim or reward.

2) He/she fancies themselves enjoying success without limits; that they will have ultimate power, personal brilliance, beauty or find ideal love.

3) The Narcissist honestly believes themself to be “special” and unique and can only be understood by other special or high-status people or institutions.

4) She/he requires excessive admiration.

5) They have a sense of entitlement, that is, an unreasonable expectation of especially favorable treatment or the automatic compliance with his/her expectations.

6) The Narcissist is interpersonally exploitive. They will use others to obtain his or her personal goals.

7) He/she lacks empathy. They are unwilling or unable to recognize or identify with the needs and feelings of others.

8) The Narcissist is often envious of others and/or believes that others are envious of him/her.

9) They often show arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes toward others.
Courtesy of Sheepfold Ministries, Sharon, PA 16146