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ADDICTION / COMPULSION

ad-dic-tion = A pathological relationship to any mood - altering experience that has life-damaging consequences.

com-pul-sion = A strong irresistible urge to repeat certain behaviors, even if the repetition is illogical or un-necessary. A preoccupation with rules, order, organization, efficiency and details.

In restoring an addict it is important to know that addiction and compulsivity are synonymous. Addictive/Compulsive behavior involves repeating any mood-lifting behavior until it becomes life-threatening. For example, using the elbow, wrist and lips to drink alcohol to the point of harm to self or others. See II Peter 2:22

At the core of all addictive behavior is Toxic Shame, the murder of self. The person with a compulsive/addictive behavior problem has had life experiences which caused them to cope with their pain in this maladaptive way.
Toxic Shaming - the inner conviction that self is totally worthless. It is the motivating force for all addictions.
The only healing from addiction is a spiritual healing. The only way an addict can receive lasting healing is through a spiritual relationship with the only power that is greater than themselves: Jesus Christ. See Isaiah 53:4-6; and Hebrews 12:1,2

Courtesy of Sheepfold Ministries, Sharon, PA

Rev. Phil Roland, Pastoral Counselor

 

A Biblical Model For ADDICTION


"It would have been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness, than to have known it and then to turn their backs on the sacred command that was passed on to them. Of them the proverbs are true: 'A dog returns to its vomit,' and, 'a sow that is washed goes back to her wallowing in the mud.'" II Peter 2:21,22

From the Biblical point of view, addiction occurs in the mindless repeating of painful behaviors by the addict in pursuit of their addiction(s). The lives of addicts are endless circles of repeating the behaviors that keep leading them into painful consequences. The old adage is true:
IF I ALWAYS DO WHAT I'VE ALWAYS DONE, I'LL ALWAYS GET WHAT I'VE ALWAYS GOT!

Galatians 6:7 puts it this way, "Do not be deceived: God is not mocked. A man reaps what he sows." But those who are under the influence of an addiction, lose their insight capability, and therefore cannot see the connection between their addiction(s) and the consequences.

PAINFUL CONSEQUENCES often are the driving force that brings change into a person's life. We, Christians must be careful about relieving an addict's consequences. They need pain to change. For example,


CHANGE IS PAINFUL.
REMAINING AS I AM IS PAINFUL.
I WILL NOT CHANGE UNTIL
THE PAIN OF REMAINING AS I AM
BECOMES GREATER THAN
THE PAIN OF CHANGE ITSELF.

Courtesy of Sheepfold Ministries, Sharon, PA
Pastor Phil Roland, MA 724-981-5683

 


Roots of Compulsions

See him lying there facing the house: one shoulder is against the building; the other against the dirt.
Hear him snore!
He is sleeping away the smoldering fires of last night's booze.
I punch him awake!
How can he lie here under the all-seeing eyes?
As I shake his shoulder his slathered lips evoke a drinking song.
Again, I punch the drunk that is My Dad!
He throws up the putrefaction of my shattered self-esteem.
My forgotten fear is seen again.
It spews forth for all to see: the guilt of forgotten commands,and poorly done chores.
It hauntingly lies there.
We could have fished rivers and streams; hunted through mountain forests together;
discovered as one the beauty of relationship.
And I awake with pain of mind and heart to remember the humiliation and the waste.
And in my memory, I punch the drunk that was My Dad.

Phil Roland, 1978

 

D E F E N S E S      A G A I N S T :

BLAMING; ROLE-PLAYING; MYTH-MAKING;
INCOMPLETION; UNRELIABILITY;
CONTROL; DENIAL; PERFECTIONISM.

 

TOXIC SHAME
Inner Perception of Worthlessness/The Murder of Self

RAGE
O U T - O F - C O N T R O L

ABANDONMENT
Isolation - Fear of Being Cut-Off from God, Others, Self
Toxic shaming is the root of all addictions. Pastor Phil Roland

Biblical Addiction Texts

Prov 23:29 Who has woe? Who has sorrow? Who has strife? Who has complaints? Who has needless bruises? Who has bloodshot eyes?
Prov 23:30 Those who linger over wine, who go to sample bowls of mixed wine.
Prov 23:31 Do not gaze at wine when it is red, when it sparkles in the cup, when it goes down smoothly!
Prov 23:32 In the end it bites like a snake and poisons like a viper.
Prov 23:33 Your eyes will see strange sights and your mind imagine confusing things.
Prov 23:34 You will be like one sleeping on the high seas, lying on top of the rigging.
Prov 23:35 "They hit me," you will say, "but I'm not hurt! They beat me, but I don't feel it! When will I wake up so I can find another drink?"
Prov 24:1 Do not envy wicked men, do not desire their company

 

ADDICTION POETRY

 

FIRST FIG

“MY candle burns at both ends;
  It will not last the night;
But ah, my foes, and oh, my friends–
  It gives a lovely light!”

 

SECOND FIG

“SAFE upon the solid rock the ugly houses stand:
  Come and see my shining palace built upon the sand!

 

Edna St Vincent Millay

“A Few Figs from Thistles,” 1922.

 

ALCOHOL FACTS:

America has 6.8 million Alcohol Bingers, and 2.1 million Heavy Drinkers under the age of 21.

76 million Americans have an alcoholic in their family.

Three million violent crimes occur each year under the influence of alcohol.

There is no “safe” use of alcohol.  Comparing alcohol with tobacco, no one ever smoked two packs and later killed an innocent family on the highway.

People sue tobacco companies for the consequences of their smoking.

Are we now going to sue Jack Daniel’s because a loved one has used it to become alcoholic?

Can I sue McDonald’s if I have high cholesterol?

Can I sue the bartender because I got drunk in his bar and then did something illegal?

 

TOBACCO REALITIES:

Anna Quindlin wrote in January 2001, “The Weird World of Tobacco,” Here is the bottom line: “cigarettes are the only legal product that, when used as directed, causes death.”  It is obvious that Anna Quindlin never heard of the abortion pill, RU-486.

COURTESY OF SHEEPFOLD MINISTRIES, 2008

ADDICTION POETRY

 

FIRST FIG

“MY candle burns at both ends;
  It will not last the night;
But ah, my foes, and oh, my friends–
  It gives a lovely light!”

 

SECOND FIG

“SAFE upon the solid rock the ugly houses stand:
  Come and see my shining palace built upon the sand!

 

Edna St Vincent Millay

“A Few Figs from Thistles,” 1922.

 

ALCOHOL FACTS:

America has 6.8 million Alcohol Bingers, and 2.1 million Heavy Drinkers under the age of 21.

76 million Americans have an alcoholic in their family.

Three million violent crimes occur each year under the influence of alcohol.

There is no “safe” use of alcohol.  Comparing alcohol with tobacco, no one ever smoked two packs and later killed an innocent family on the highway.

People sue tobacco companies for the consequences of their smoking.

Are we now going to sue Jack Daniel’s because a loved one has used it to become alcoholic?

Can I sue McDonald’s if I have high cholesterol?

Can I sue the bartender because I got drunk in his bar and then did something illegal?

 

TOBACCO REALITIES:

Anna Quindlin wrote in January 2001, “The Weird World of Tobacco,” Here is the bottom line: “cigarettes are the only legal product that, when used as directed, causes death.”  It is obvious that Anna Quindlin never heard of the abortion pill, RU-486.

COURTESY OF SHEEPFOLD MINISTRIES, 2008